Crossposted from Everyday Gratitude
New Year’s Eve used to be my most dreaded date of the year (and I still feel a bit wibbly about it, if I’m honest). I never quite know what to do with myself, and part of me resents that you’re expected to have something organised, while another part of me thinks, “wouldn’t it be nice to do something fun?” The times I have organised to do big fun things have been great (the year we camped on Cockatoo Island, or the year I was up in Bellingen with a bunch of friends and we danced around with sparklers), and low-key things have been great too (having a bunch of friends over to lie around on the couch and watch When Harry Met Sally). But whenever I don’t have a plan, there is definite FOMO going on, even though I know I’m not actually missing out on anything, really.
But actually, a very important adult lesson I learned is that you can stay home (whether that’s alone or with family/housemates) – you don’t even have to stay up til midnight! – on new year’s eve and that’s okay (this lesson ranks alongside “you might not feel too well, but you can have pudding for breakfast every day for a week after Christmas if you want to” and “actually, nobody knows what they’re doing”). I think the key is planning to do so and feeling good about it.
This year, in line with all the Everyday Gratitude stuff, what better time than New Year’s Eve to look back and look forward, right? Instead of getting consumed with parties and crowds and exhaustion and all that, why not have something yummy to eat and drink, put on some nice music, turn off social media (if you’re feeling a bit blue, nothing will ruin your night in like scrolling through Facebook), sit somewhere comfy and take some time to reflect. No pressure to set goals or make resolutions, unless that’s something you enjoy doing.
You can use the Everyday Gratitude diary (or your other diary or calendar) to sum up your 2015, if you haven’t already, and try to pop some good things in the overview for 2016. A useful start might be to ask “when am I taking time off in 2016?” and to deliberately plan for some rest and recharging (and then you get the fun part of deciding what you’re going to do with your time off!). Another useful question to ask, which comes from Danielle LaPorte’s The Desire Map, is “how do I want to feel this time next year?”
Whatever you end up doing, whether it involves crowds or quietness, champagne or a cup of tea, sparkly shoes or comfy pyjamas, I hope you have a lovely last night of 2015. Bring on 2016!
(If you still need convincing that it’s okay to do whatever you want at new year’s:
- Read Pip’s New Year’s Eve note: You are fine the way you are
- Watch: Natalie Tran and be a Gregorian calendar cowboy too)